This is going to be a super short post, but I'm going to ask for you guys' advice. I am not sure what to do, and my neurotic little brain is going crazy thinking myself in circles.
So there's this guy friend I have, right? We've been friends for a long time (as in since high school), but lately I've been getting these... vibes from him. Weird, I-may-be-interested-in-you vibes. Now, I've gotten these vibes from him before, and they tend to disappate, but here's the kicker...
[insert girly squeal here]
I'm not normally a giddy person...
Ah, hell... Who am I kidding? I'm totally a giddy person. I'm a big lover of romantic comedies, and nothing makes me happier than a good love story. I mean, I get my rocks off giving people relationship advice, because it helps me live vicariously through these people.
But that's not the point... The point is this guy. As I said, we've been friends for a long time, and I even had a super huge crush on him in high school. All in all, he's just a great guy... definitely my type. Well, we've started hanging out again now that he's back in Nashville, and I've been getting those vibes I was talking about.
What I'm thinking is that my old feelings of high school crush-dom have invaded my subconscious, making my vibe-reading skills either wonky or hyper-sensitive. I talked to my Mom about it, and all she could say was "Well, you know, the best relationships are formed out of good friendships." Gahhh... Not what I was wanting to hear. Or was it? Good gravy, I don't know!!! I'm just confused, and I don't like being confused. I like knowing answers and feeling comfortable with things.
So my question is this: What would you guys do? Because I honestly have no clue whatsoever. I'm terrified to go into anything because he's such a good, close friend. I would be really upset if things were to end badly, leaving me 1 less friend like him. Blargh. Help?
Peace.
Stef.
So there's this guy friend I have, right? We've been friends for a long time (as in since high school), but lately I've been getting these... vibes from him. Weird, I-may-be-interested-in-you vibes. Now, I've gotten these vibes from him before, and they tend to disappate, but here's the kicker...
I don't hate it.
[insert girly squeal here]
I'm not normally a giddy person...
Ah, hell... Who am I kidding? I'm totally a giddy person. I'm a big lover of romantic comedies, and nothing makes me happier than a good love story. I mean, I get my rocks off giving people relationship advice, because it helps me live vicariously through these people.
Hello, my name is Stefanie, and I am a giddiness junkie.
But that's not the point... The point is this guy. As I said, we've been friends for a long time, and I even had a super huge crush on him in high school. All in all, he's just a great guy... definitely my type. Well, we've started hanging out again now that he's back in Nashville, and I've been getting those vibes I was talking about.
What I'm thinking is that my old feelings of high school crush-dom have invaded my subconscious, making my vibe-reading skills either wonky or hyper-sensitive. I talked to my Mom about it, and all she could say was "Well, you know, the best relationships are formed out of good friendships." Gahhh... Not what I was wanting to hear. Or was it? Good gravy, I don't know!!! I'm just confused, and I don't like being confused. I like knowing answers and feeling comfortable with things.
So my question is this: What would you guys do? Because I honestly have no clue whatsoever. I'm terrified to go into anything because he's such a good, close friend. I would be really upset if things were to end badly, leaving me 1 less friend like him. Blargh. Help?
Peace.
Stef.
Comments
Invite him to go shopping with you. Tell him you need his advice on picking out a gift for a father/uncle/brother. Then treat him to a *quiet* cafe afterward.
Someone did this with me and it totally worked. I ended up marrying him.
Good luck!
@Gorilla - Woah, woah, woah... That's taking a bit further than I was intending. haha I mean, we are pretty close, but we've never witnessed each other in a romantic situation, so we still have yet to cross that bridge. :)
Thanks for your comments, guys!
@dorkvader - If I figure it out, I'll be sure to let you know! As of right now, though, I've got nothing... Well, other than the whole "spend more time with him" thing.
I'll keep you all updated!
Maybe just enjoy what you have and wait for what's next? If you enjoy hanging out with him now, don't get all caught up in "we might end up in a relationship with 2.7 children and a dog and..." - or something like that. Simply relax, enjoy, wait for things to happen. It surely worked for me.