Living With Your Parents at 27

I've reached a point in my life in which, as society tells me, I should be completely self-sufficient.

I should be well-seated in my career path with the opportunity for upward mobility and promise of a potentially large salary looming in my future.

I should be married (or at least in a serious relationship) and thinking about 2.5 kids and a dog (if not already).

I should be capable of saving lots of money and having an emergency fund that will cover any and all catastrophes that may or may not happen.

Should, should, should.

Well... I'm not.

Hello. My name is Stefanie.
I am 27 years old, and I just moved back in with my parents.



I am a very proud person, so saying the above sort of feels like something akin to Seppuku without the honor, especially since my parents had such high hopes for me. In a way, I feel like I've let them down a bit.

That's not to say that I'm a failure or anything. There are specific reasons why I chose to move back in with my parents (most of them stemming from the fact that I'm leaving the country for an extended period of time in 6 months), but I'm not the only person in my age bracket that has chosen to live with their parents in this day and age.


Financially, it seems the only way to get ahead, to push through the crippling debt that we're all essentially forced to bear in exchange for higher level education. Not only that, but when we're looking for jobs, all we're told is "We hired someone with more experience." Well, how in the bloody hell am I going to get more experience if no one will hire me?????" It's this terrible cycle that leads nowhere but self loathing and frustration.

Per Business Insider, nearly 1/3 of 18-34 year olds live with their parents instead of on their own. That's huge. It makes me feel a little bit better about the situation because I have a clear end date in sight, but I am unfortunately a minority. Most people my age move in with their parents because they have absolutely no other choice.

If I had wanted to stay at my apartment, I could have. But the truth of the matter is that I would not be able to save any money over the next 6 months in preparation for my move. And that's what I really need to do. Thank God my parents were willing to take me in.

SIDE NOTE: MomLady and Popsicle, you guys are the best. I don't know what I'd do without you and your generosity and kindness. When I grow up, I'll be lucky if I'm 1/2 the people you are.

While there is definite social stigma surrounding moving in with your parents while an adult (hah... me, an adult? HAH!), there are also some really great upsides.

1. Savings Potential - I don't have to pay rent or utilities for the next 6 months. Of course, I'll be chipping in for food and whatnot just to make sure I'm not an absolutely awful freeloader, but it's not a requirement.

2. Closeness - My parents are awesome, guys. Seriously. We all hate them in Middle School, and we think that they are out to ruin our lives, but with age comes the realization that they really just want the best for us and for us to succeed. Parenting is a selfless activity, and I was blessed with 2 brilliantly shining examples of great parenting. I'm really looking forward to spending time with them over the next 6 months, essentially making up for lost time where I've been "too busy" or "too far" to stop by for a visit.

3. Cupcake - My dog is averse to change. Hates it, in fact. New people and things reduce my fearsome warrior pitbull into a quivering mass of whining puppy flesh, and I'm really glad that I get to ease her into staying with my parents over the next 6 months so the following year won't be as hard for her with me being away. Granted, once she comes to Korea after I've gotten all settled, that'll be a whole other ball of wax, but I'm sure it will all work out. Much research and planning will be required.

So all in all, I feel like I did the right thing. It's hard to admit that I'm living with my parents at the moment, but it is what it is, and it's what I needed to do.

Peace.
Stef.

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