In Which I Stop Being an Anti-Social Workaholic

Recently, I decided that I needed to stop being a self-imposed hermit and actually socialize on weekends and evenings instead of using those times to sleep for an inordinate amount of hours, waste my time putzing around on the internet, or work unreasonable hours. So where does a girl who doesn't want to spend stupid amounts of money on one of those "singles club" thingies go for a good, safe time?

There's always craigslist, but I've been there, done that... and honestly didn't want to have to wade through millions of spammy posts and e-mails just to find someone that seems like he *might* not have a penchant for murdering redheads because he wants to create a sweater out of their hair as a result of his overwhelming Mommy issues. So... no craigslist.

I could also just force myself to go out more with my current set of friends. The only hang up there is that the majority of my close friends are still in college. I love them so much - and they know that I do - but as a 26-year-old, I have moved past the partying thing (to be honest, I never really enjoyed that scene anyway as I always ended up being the DD) and want to foster deeper, more substantial relationships that are based on more than nights filled with booze and the vomiting that sometimes happens afterwards. There is a time for that when growing up, but I have no desire to take part in it anymore. Don't get me wrong; I'm not attempting to replace my friends. Those of you that know me know that I believe friendships to be invaluable and irreplaceable, and I am fiercely protective of them. That being said, I am simply widening my friend pool to include a more varied group of people (I feel like this paragraph makes me sound like a giant doucher, so I'm just going to stop there.).

At any rate, a friend of mine recommended OKCupid 1) for sheer entertainment and 2) for possible, honest (albeit rare) connections. Don't knock it if you haven't tried it, right? Not only that, but if nothing comes of it, you at least have had the chance to look at some pretty bizarre interesting profiles.

Online dating has always been a bit of a squidgy topic for me because, you know... it's online. As a mid-20s female, the internet can be a scary place, and it's so much easier to to just say, "I think I'll just try my luck with randomly running into someone all happenstance-like, thanks."

It's like Meg and Hamilton Swan from Best in Show, who locked eyes in separate Starbucks across the street from one another. Hamilton was drinking an espresso, and Meg thought that was sexy. It was fate, I tell you. FATE!!

With the introduction of the internet, however, our society has essentially made "meet cutes" like the Swan's story obsolete. Humans, Americans in particular, are using the internet (or texting) to communicate with one another rather than face-to-face contact.


That leaves all of us singletons to try our luck at places like bars and clubs. Uh... no, thanks. That's just like walking out into Times Square at around 7pm on a Friday and screaming, "Anyone have an STD they want to unload on me????" I'd rather be single than deal with that bull.

Wish me luck on my OK Cupid venture. I've had some pretty promising bites already, and I'm feeling pretty good about it.

Speaking of which, tune in next week when I share the story of how I am the most awkward person of all time, anywhere. You think I'm kidding, but I'm totally not.

Peace.
Stef.

Comments

Jeff Evans said…
Good luck! I've been there, done that, as far as Internet dating goes. It was pretty bizarre for me--I can only imagine how weird it'll be for you. But there are a few good ones out there, if you're willing to sift through all the weirdness.
lindsay said…
Good luck! I have several friends who have met their spouses on eharmony so I think online dating can work but like anything you may have to wade through some duds before you find your perfect match...
GunDiva said…
I felt the same way, but joined Cupid and married the man I met through them after only a couple of REALLY bad dates with total douchepackers.

It's also great blog fodder - so keep a good sense of humor.
Workaholism is often a soul-destroying habit which modifications people's individuality and also the ideals these people reside by. The item distorts the reality of loved one, threatens family members protection and often brings about family members break-up.

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