Well, the time has come, folks, for me to unmask Mr. Perfect (or Mrs. Perfect, depending on who you are).
Who is he? What does he do? Why the hell is he so hard to find?
|Notice the little key coming out of his back. |
Ah, the perfect man...
I know, I know. Gasps all around, right?
I'm sure most of you are probably going to think, "Man, this chick is totally jaded." But I'm not, really and truly. I am simply a realist.
We are taught from day one by the media and so on that our perfect mate is out there somewhere in this land of beauty and opportunity, but the truth is that there is no such thing as a "perfect partner" or a "soul mate." In the words of Snow White, "Someday my prince will come..." except, he's not.
Don't get me wrong; I would love it if soul mates existed. It would totally appeal to my hopeless romanticism. But I'd also love it if Santa Claus was real. Or the Easter Bunny. And we all know how realistic those are.
Here's the bottom line: If you want a relationship to work with someone, then you make it work. It's that simple. Sure, there are people with whom a relationship might be easier than others, but at the end of the day it's all about making a commitment and sticking with it even if things get hard.
I can imagine some of you are thinking, "Well, then why break up with anyone at all? Why not just 'make it work' with the first person with whom you enter into a relationship?"
What if you decide you don't want to 'make it work' with that person? What if he (or she) decides he doesn't want to 'make it work' with you? That's what dating is for. As callous as this may sound, I have always viewed dating as a weeding process. You're finding out who best fits with your personality, who appeals most to your Love Languages, etc. If someone doesn't fit the bill, then au revoir. I can be picky, right? I mean, I am planning on spending the rest of my life with this person.
This is how I figure it: there are a bunch of people in the world, right? I mean, come on, there are, what, 6 billion people on the Earth, and you're trying to tell me that only one of those people are my soul mate? That brings my odds of finding said soul mate down to dismal levels, and it's honestly depressing and makes me want to throw in the towel completely. It just doesn't seem worth it.
What are your thoughts? Are you pro soul mate? Or are you, like me, disillusioned by the statistics and an overwhelming sense of realism?