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Freeeeedooooommmmm!!

You know when you start to have feelings for someone and kind of put him on this pedestal where he can do no wrong? Well, I had an epiphany the other day. That's where I've been putting Boy (click link to catch up on the story). I found myself thinking, He knows about all of my faults and whatnot, but I have yet to find something about him that I don't like. I was writing about this in my journal, and that thought scared me. I mean, I've known this guy since I was 15, and I can't think of any flaws of his?

Something's rotten in Denmark, says I.

Everyone has faults. It's human nature. Some people are better at hiding them than others, but they're there, underneath the surface. Even Boy has them.

At any rate, I spent some time with him the other day, and I have discovered that he is [insert trumpet fanfare] a bit shallow, specifically when it comes to other people's weight.

We saw some old friends of ours who had recently gained some weight, and when they left he immediately commented on it, incredulous as to how someone could possibly gain that much weight. I was honestly shocked.

Those of you who know me are aware that I am not a size 0 stick figure. I have curves, and I have just begun allowing myself to be proud of them. The fact that he said all of this to me really confused me. You haven't seen these people in several years, and the first thing you focus on is how they look?

Maybe it's the difference between being a man and a woman. Men are visually oriented - or so people keep telling me - and women are emotionally oriented. And that's fine. But I simply cannot comprehend focusing that much on another person's appearance.

I guess it's a double-edged sword, however, because I'm much more likely to judge someone on an emotional / intelligence level.

At any rate, Boy has been freed from the dumb little pedestal on which I placed him, and, as a result, I have been freed from the shadow created by the pedestal.

This is a good thing.

This isn't to say that there aren't still feelings there. They're there, alright. They've just taken a bit of a fall, and I'm able to look at things more rationally now. Maybe they'll even dissipate! That'd be convenient. :)

What do you guys think? Am I being too sensitive to the comments mentioned above? This isn't the first time that something like that has been said, and I'm beginning to realize it's actually a common occurrence. I'd love to hear opinions from both sexes.

Tomorrow starts the re-initiation of daily writing exercises. I'm really excited to get back on that horse.

Peace.
Stef.

Comments

Diandra said…
Weight is always a difficult topic when talking to a woman... the BF continuously makes stupid comments without being aware of it. (^v^)

I don't know if you're being oversensitive, but at least you found out he's only human. Which is good, he might have been dangerous otherwise.
Stef Howerton said…
That's what I was thinking. Perfect boys are only trouble, because you find out much too late that they really aren't perfect. haha
Beth said…
I think it's good to be sensitive to these kinds of things, cause ignoring them or disregarding them only leads to pedestal-syndrome. Which isn't good, take it from me.
Also! So sorry I haven't been commenting lately! This month has been insane, and I'm just now getting back into bloggy stuff.

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