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This is going to be a super short post, but I'm going to ask for you guys' advice. I am not sure what to do, and my neurotic little brain is going crazy thinking myself in circles.

So there's this guy friend I have, right? We've been friends for a long time (as in since high school), but lately I've been getting these... vibes from him. Weird, I-may-be-interested-in-you vibes. Now, I've gotten these vibes from him before, and they tend to disappate, but here's the kicker...

I don't hate it.

[insert girly squeal here]

I'm not normally a giddy person...

Ah, hell... Who am I kidding? I'm totally a giddy person. I'm a big lover of romantic comedies, and nothing makes me happier than a good love story. I mean, I get my rocks off giving people relationship advice, because it helps me live vicariously through these people.

Hello, my name is Stefanie, and I am a giddiness junkie.

But that's not the point... The point is this guy. As I said, we've been friends for a long time, and I even had a super huge crush on him in high school. All in all, he's just a great guy... definitely my type. Well, we've started hanging out again now that he's back in Nashville, and I've been getting those vibes I was talking about.

What I'm thinking is that my old feelings of high school crush-dom have invaded my subconscious, making my vibe-reading skills either wonky or hyper-sensitive. I talked to my Mom about it, and all she could say was "Well, you know, the best relationships are formed out of good friendships." Gahhh... Not what I was wanting to hear. Or was it? Good gravy, I don't know!!! I'm just confused, and I don't like being confused. I like knowing answers and feeling comfortable with things.

So my question is this: What would you guys do? Because I honestly have no clue whatsoever. I'm terrified to go into anything because he's such a good, close friend. I would be really upset if things were to end badly, leaving me 1 less friend like him. Blargh. Help?



Maria Zannini said…
This made me smile.

Invite him to go shopping with you. Tell him you need his advice on picking out a gift for a father/uncle/brother. Then treat him to a *quiet* cafe afterward.

Someone did this with me and it totally worked. I ended up marrying him.

Good luck!
Gorilla Bananas said…
If he's been your friend all this time he should know whether he wants to marry you or not. Do nothing until he proposes. Then say "yes" or "no".
Stef Howerton said…
@Maria - Good idea! :) That's always a possibility. Thanks!

@Gorilla - Woah, woah, woah... That's taking a bit further than I was intending. haha I mean, we are pretty close, but we've never witnessed each other in a romantic situation, so we still have yet to cross that bridge. :)

Thanks for your comments, guys!
Mark Kerstetter said…
Don't do anything quickly. Take your time. Definitely spend time with him - lunch, coffee, conversation.
Beth said…
HA! I have no clue. In fact, if you figure it out, would you let me know? Cause this EXACT thing has happened to me this week >_<
Stef Howerton said…
@Mark - That's what I was thinking. Don't want to make any rash decisions, do I? I'm hoping for more time spent with him. We shall see!

@dorkvader - If I figure it out, I'll be sure to let you know! As of right now, though, I've got nothing... Well, other than the whole "spend more time with him" thing.

I'll keep you all updated!
Diandra said…
Geez, I wouldn't force the poor guy to go shopping with me. On the other hand, if he actually went with you, that might prove he's willing to suffer for you. (^v^)

Maybe just enjoy what you have and wait for what's next? If you enjoy hanging out with him now, don't get all caught up in "we might end up in a relationship with 2.7 children and a dog and..." - or something like that. Simply relax, enjoy, wait for things to happen. It surely worked for me.
Judy said…
Being older, 61, and probably not wiser, let me tell you how it usually works. I loved having male friends, but unless they were gay, it didn't last long. Always, the guy started thinking he wanted to take it further, meaning "let's go to bed," and after it happened, they'd go screaming off into the dark, never to be seen again. Not because I was a horrible freak (I don't think,) but the big commitment deal became an issue or they didn't know what to do now that the friendship thing had gotten mutated. the old movies, friends fell in love and got married and everything was funny and sweet. Real life is different. I'd try to have an honest to god talk with him if he really shows interest or there is a kiss or something. A friendship is a terrible thing to ruin. I hope you're not more confused. Just advice from the old lady here.

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